Dear FeministsCategory: General   Mar 15th 2014  12:15PM   0

Dear civilians & anti-sex work feminists, What's with the escort hate? Chill out.

There are plenty of men to go around and none of them are being "trained" to objectify you. Put down the Kool-aid, put on your big girl panties and stop with the whining. Believe it or not, we're all on the same side here. In fact, escorts and companions are doing you a favor. Considering the structure, boundaries, and fair exchange involved in our interactions, maybe you could learn a thing or two?

Allow me to do my part. Here's an analogy to illustrate my point.

There's a car wash in my neighborhood that employs mostly Mexicans to hand wash & dry customers' cars. Mexicans and women are each close to 50% of the population of Austin, and it's fair to say our institutionalized sexism is somewhere on par with the institutionalized racism around here. Also, my upscale neighborhood is packed with youngish, single, privileged white guys, most of whom have a touch of both. 

Here's the thing:  I GUARANTEE you, not one of those guys has approached random Mexicans with the expectation s/he should immediately wash his BMW. Nor is the average American male expecting sex or companionship from random women just because SOME women sell it. Racism and sexism exist. Escorts and Mexicans aren't to blame.

Escorts and companions don't "train" men to objectify women. If anything we remind them of the inherent value of all women. We're living proof that time, energy, and company aren't free and deserve fair, mutually agreed upon consideration (either with equal amounts of time/energy/company or a little cold, hard each his/her own). 

Ladies, if you're so offended by someone else's consensual compensation and/or objectification, maybe (get a life? or) campaign to criminalize casual sex and random hookups. Storm City Hall—HANG THE SINGLES BARS and TORCH OK-CUPID!—because by your logic, "giving it away" for free "trains" men to be sexist….or something (?).


Your argument doesn't hold water. It's an illogical, desperate rationalization stemming from self-centered terror of losing leverage. That if non-monogamous sex and companionship are too convenient and available to the male population there won't be any potential husbands left for you.

Women of value don't need leverage.

Don't you think you have anything else to offer? That's so sad. Maybe you should consider some personal "inner" work instead of misdirecting your self-righteous anger outward.

Escorts are not your competition and puritanical feminists are their own worst enemy.

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