Good FormCategory: General   Nov 10th 2013  10:46AM   3

One of the most challenging poses in my yoga class requires the use of every muscle group to maintain proper form. Flexibility comes into play (in the hips and spine) but it demands core strength as well as in every appendage from head to toe. It took me years to hold proper form longer than a few seconds but now, on a good day, I can get close to a full minute.

I've noticed most students hold it longer because they use improper form. They "cheat" by leaning into their fingertips or arching sideways instead of keeping a flat back. For the life of me I don't know why anyone would sacrifice form in such a way. Why do something incorrectly long term rather than correctly for a short term? How do they expect to get stronger without challenging themselves?

Most people are the same in relationships. They sidestep proper form that's too challenging or painful, maneuvering and manipulating to get by instead. Anyone who thinks deception, avoidance, or intimidation passes for good form should start charting their progress. Odds are they're exactly where they started. Restless and alone, older but immature, lacking the wisdom that makes aging tolerable in the first place. 

Something else I've noticed about people, especially women, is that they feel invisible as they get older, less desirable or valued by society. They've probably relied too much on the superficiality of youth instead of something more substantial from their core. I think they should check their form and try again. 

Now in my mid-40s, I have never been more vital or received more positive attention in my life. Anyone who isn't becoming more relevant and appreciated as they age is doing it wrong. 

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